A separation or divorce takes place. One of the partners gets a new partner. Another is left alone. Imagine of the pain? Already the thoughts about why the divorce took place? The thoughts of having been cheated out of many years, and how to carry forward are troubling the mind. Now one has to see his/her ex. Settled with another and find oneself alone. How to cope up? Many people bottle up their feelings as if nothing has happened. They don't allow themselves to grieve. They don't allow the anger to come out. They don't allow the frustration to show. They don't allow the thoughts of having been cheated show up. There are many more emotions. But they want to show as if everything is Ok. But it is not. To find oneself alone is a tough feeling. it is not easy to fight the pain. It is equally difficult to get new love because the past is haunting. A person in this situation is so absorbed with the past that he/she has no thought of getting love. Is this Ok? Certainly not. What should be done? Come out of the past. First accept that you got defeated. Accept the pain and live it. Accept the loneliness and grieve over it. Accept all that happened and experience all the feelings. Drain the past. It will be painful but consult a therapist and ask for advice. Cleanse yourself. Reenergize and search for love again Pain becomes more when the ex gets a partner and you are left alone. You have to get your own love so that life can move forward. |
